Before continuing, I'm sure that some here would have had pointed out that Jesus' Second Commandment says: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. Umm, "as yourself?" Is He saying to love myself OR to love others same as I love myself? The latter. However... you DO need to love yourself - not hate yourself, or not care about yourself, or keep putting yourself down. Such a situation is MOST UNHEALTHY and seriously needs to be addressed by getting help.
You need to RESPECT yourself for who you are, as a child of the living God. You are important to Him! Note please, that NONE of this is saying to start being selfish and self-centered!! NOT AT ALL! Just to have a good, decent and healthy ATTITUDE and emotions toward yourself - which will, in turn, help your attitude towards God. (A question to ponder: can you really love God if you don't love yourself? And if so, which comes first?)
Then Jesus ups and adds in a third commandment! Very personal this one is, as well as very important! JOHN 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. Firstly, this is a NEW Commandment, He says. Secondly, He says that we are to LOVE ONE ANOTHER. But who are "one another"? - our Brother and Sister Christians!! This is at least one reason why Jesus called it a NEW Commandment - because loving other Christians was never POSSIBLE before this, as there weren't any!!! Thirdly, HOW are we are to love them? - same as I have loved you!!! Which was: GAVE HIS LIFE for us. Loves us THAT much!!!
Our love for each other has to be that DEEP and that SERIOUS also!! Anyone who says He loves God but hates his Brother is "a liar!!" Rather puts us on the spot, doesn't it! The Christian life is FOR REAL, people. It is NOT a game. It will COST you, which Jesus has promised, and so if you're not willing to bear the cost then at best you WILL make it to live with God forever, but LOSE YOUR WHOLE REWARD from God!!! (please, please, please don't let that happen!!) At worst, you'll lose EVERYTHING and end up in hell forever - I'm sure I don't need to say any "pleases" about THAT!!
Finally, there's clear evidence in the New Testament that loving each other comes AHEAD of loving others!! Our Brother and Sister Christians are highly important, and come next after loving GOD. Then other people come after that. To end, this amazing verse contains a strong insistance (invocation; command), a statement, two promises, and an implied warning: 1 JOHN 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Can you see them...
- BM (with his Lady)